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May 14, 2008
Ink Blot - Interpersonal Perception
We now continue with bits of my recent Rorschach test. My comments are in whatever color this is.
Be sure to read the Rorschach Info blurb (Disclaimer) or my less-formal explanation before continuing.
INTERPERSONAL PERCEPTION
Suspiciousness:
- You appear to be as trusting as most people.
- You are extremely alert and attentive to things around you, trying hard to put together all you take in.
As Paden said in Silverado, "I always figure you might as well approach life like everybody's your friend or nobody is." Of course he ended up on the wrong end of four guns and left in his long johns in the desert. But really, it is easier, and a time saver, to trust people. And, again, this only applies to situations not involving my children.
As for the "alert and attentive." You've seen the picture. I'm a damned Ninja.
Defensiveness:
- You try to notice and pay attention to as much as you can so you can feel more prepared to handle unexpected things or situations.
- You stay distant from people and prefer not to get too emotionally involved in order to avoid uncomfortable social situations.
Yes, yes yes. I'm working on this last item. I'm learning uncomfortable situations aren't always as bad as I thought they might be.
Interpersonal Relationships:
- Activities with other people and personal relationships do not appear to be very important to you. For this reason, you probably are not actively sought out by others.
- Your dealings with people may be based more on your general biases and expectations than on your actual experiences with individuals.
- You relate to some people not so much for who they really are but for who you would like them to be
- You tend to form opinions and make judgments about people by looking at only a few specific characteristics, but you miss their other characteristics.
- When you are stressed, you tend not to expect nor accept comfort or support from others, relying more on your own abilities to cope.
I have been hermit-like these past several years. The hormone problem sort of put me in a "bleh" state of mind and divorce is never fun. So, I've sort of stuck to myself and the weeks I don't have the boys do things I can do alone. I'm taking steps to be better but, honestly, most of it was not wanting to bother people. Or something else; who knows?
As for not being sought out by people to do anything… I don't know a lot of people who can do anything. We've all got kids. And I'm not one to go to a bar to watch a game and drink beer on a regular basis. There's a group of us that tries, the last Friday of the month, to go out for a piss-up (one of the guys is a Brit); we don't always make it. If people call me to ride the bike, I'm on it.
Items two, three and four strike me odd. I grew up running around with a group of guys that accepted everybody and that's how I am today, but then, I'm not sure those are exclusionary bullet points. I'm going to fall back on the thought that everybody is good until they prove otherwise. I'm not saying it's the best way to go, but it's the one I've made use of for years, and most time it pays off.
As for the last bullet point, it is certainly me. I am happy to hear people's problems all day and acknowledge that their talking about them makes them feel better (from a venting and getting-a-different-perspective standpoint) and that I may actually be able to help them out by providing support and possibly additional insight. However, I don't always like to bother other people with my problems; I'm trying to change this too.
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Posted by delmer at May 14, 2008 7:23 AM
Comments
You're a Ninja! And a "damned Ninja" at that!! You really should guest host on "askaninja.com" sometime.
I knew there was something about you that intrigued me...
Posted by: Ginger at May 13, 2008 4:31 PM
Ginger: Unfortunately, I'm only a Ninja in dress. I lack any sort of stealth skills.
Posted by: delmer at May 13, 2008 8:38 PM
shhhhhh! Don't downplay yourself...let us all believe that you indeed have incredible stealth abilities...
Posted by: Ginger at May 13, 2008 10:52 PM
But, *I think* anybody can be Ninja-like ... I mean, if I can do it, how hard can it be?
:)
Posted by: delmer at May 14, 2008 9:42 AM
So basically you're a judgemental ninja loner.
Yeah, I'm not buying that.
Posted by: Finn at May 14, 2008 1:09 PM
How about, I'm a loose canon that lives by my own set of rules?
Posted by: delmer at May 14, 2008 5:28 PM
You spend too much time concentrating on the finger and you've missed all the heavenly glory!
Posted by: mikeo at May 14, 2008 10:33 PM