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May 9, 2008
Ink Blot - Controls
We now continue with bits of my recent Rorschach test. My comments are in whatever color this is.
Be sure to read the Rorschach Info blurb (Disclaimer) or my less-formal explanation before continuing.
CONTROLS
Emotional Constraint:
- There is no evidence that you are holding in bottled-up feelings.
Maybe this explains why I sleep as well as I do. Especially when you consider I sometimes drink Diet Coke right up until bedtime.
Emotional Control:
- You appear not to be dealing with your feelings. Not managing emotions can lead to other problems.
- You typically have average control of your feelings. However, chronic or intense stress can cause control problems.
- You prefer to very strongly control your feelings, trying not to express them in everyday situations.
- Your strong attention to what is socially correct acts as a guideline for controlling your emotions.
- Often dealing with feelings by avoiding or withdrawing from situations, you are not likely to become emotionally stirred up unless you are strongly provoked.
This is confusing to me. I'm not holding in bottled-up feelings, but I'm not dealing with my feelings.
I am, typically, very calm. But honestly, if you were on a plane that was plunging into the sea wouldn't you rather be sitting by someone who had thought everything through and was calmly considering his fate rather than a screaming maniac? I'd be willing to try to make it to the cockpit to try to fly the jet while the screamer would be screaming, making life hell for everybody else, and eating more than her share of the peanuts.
As for my strong attention to what is socially correct, well, not long ago (and tonight, again) I couldn't help but think that punching a certain person in the noggin would probably not do anybody (but me) any good. Tonight I took a different approach and openly talked about what was bothering me with the person — some of the words we used, while not impolite, seemed to bother him in the setting we were in. I had no such problem with the words used (which you can hear in churches all across the world every Sunday) and have decided I will address our differences each and every time we meet just so he knows I'm okay with what troubles me. I must admit I was surprised by the discomfort shown as I've been assured nobody has any shame regarding the issue of which I so vaguely speak.
Historically speaking I'm slow to anger. And I get over what troubles me rather quickly. There are people who have known me since high school that have never seen me angry and I honestly think this is due to the fact I can see the larger picture. Some just aren't worth getting worked up about.
I am aware that I have other issues that stray outside the slow-to-anger category and I'm working on those.
Ego Strength: This is a general estimate of how much stress you can take before it becomes too much for you to handle. It does not measure how wisely you deal with stress nor how healthy your methods are. Ego strength just suggests how well your methods can keep you from becoming overwhelmed or non-functional under certain degrees of stress. Some people have very high ego strength and are not easily overwhelmed but their methods create many other problems. Others with low ego strength can become distraught easily but do quite well by keeping their stress level down. Ego strength can be built up.
- If you did not have your current stress, you would be handling ordinary stress about the same as most people, although unusual, unexpected, or prolonged stress may disrupt you as it would anyone.
- At this time, you appear to be handling stress about as well as you usually do.
I'm handling stress about as well as I usually do? When I have ordinary stress and not the stress I currently have?
I should have asked for some more clarification on this. I believe I have less stress than I had last year.
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Posted by delmer at May 9, 2008 8:21 PM