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February 24, 2008
Chatting Up
Once in a while, over the course of my life, a gay gentleman has hit on me. It's not always the same gay gentleman. Well, it's never been the same one twice — each time it's happened it's been a different guy. It's not like I've had the same man following me around for 25 years thinking to himself, "Today's the day." (Though, who knows, with dedication like that maybe I could be swayed.)
Sometimes the hitting on me is so subtle that I'm not even sure that's what it is. This past summer I ran a 5K and there were two things that happened during the race and one after, with the same guy, that left me wondering.
Other times it's pretty obvious as was something that happened a few weeks ago.
One of the several interesting things about all of this is that I can normally sort out when a guy is hitting on me. During the 5K had the same three things happened and a woman been involved I certainly would not have thought she was interested in taking me home. Not long ago I had an interaction with a woman that was witnessed by a second woman who would later tell me, "You know she was hitting on you, right?" And I still don't think she was. (Of course, I once had a woman tell me "You really need to be able to figure out when a woman is throwing herself at you," and I wasn't sure exactly what she meant until several minutes after we were naked.)
It used to be that when a gay guy hit on me I'd tell my buddies as I knew it would freak them out. I never understood why. I mean, these were the same guys who would periodically take a chance and chat up a girl using the you never know until you try theory. I think the same thing should apply to gay guys; they never know until they try.
Why get pissed about it?
Another reason the freaking out is unwarranted is that women will go home with anything. Guys… take a look at yourself. If you've had sex with a woman my point has been made.
Gay men, on the other hand, are a little more discerning and, generally speaking, have better taste. If a gay guy's hitting on you, really, you should be flattered more than upset. Especially when you consider the chance they're taking; if a gay guy approaches the wrong straight male (i.e., homophobes: men denying their own homosexual urges) he might try to lay a thumping on the gay guy (as a way of expressing rage over their own, suppressed, homosexual thoughts).
[Rats. This is one of those things that has sounded like it's had potential the two or three times I've written it in my head and now I'm not sure it's gone anywhere. Well, you know how I am. It stays.]
Posted by delmer at February 24, 2008 11:54 AM
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women will go home with anything.
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha! Not so fast, fireball!
;)
Posted by: Ginger at February 24, 2008 12:31 PM