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June 25, 2007
More on Yesterday's Dream
Yesterday I mentioned a dream in which a gay man asked me out and I turned him down. In that dream a second gay guy, named Mark, made an appearance most likely due to the fact that about 20 years ago he hit on me pretty hard.
Carol, my boss (and we're using the name I always use to anonymize women), Dan and I were sitting in the cafeteria at the place I used to work. I was going on about having just gotten dumped by Courtney and was doing a pretty good job of keeping the table laughing.
Mark, a character in his own right, joined us. (There is no way I can make this as funny sounding as it was but Mark used to go down the hall asking loudly, "Where's my Peter?" whenever he needed to see Pete; he did this in order to get under Pete's skin as he was one of our more homophobic coworkers. You had to be there.)
Mark was way out of the closet.
Anyway, Mark, was happy enough to listen to my tale of woe — and I really wish I could think of some of the funnier laugh lines — and he'd periodically suggest things that seemed to indicate he'd like to take me home as his boy toy.
Carol seemed to be the most flustered by the things Mark was saying and later she'd tell me that she was worried that he was offending me.
The only thing I remember Mark saying for sure was when he asked me if I'd ever considered "living an alternative lifestyle." I told him I hadn't and he went on to say that if I ever did I should give him a call.
Mark left just a moment before the other three of us did. As I walked out of the cafeteria with Dan he asked me if any of the things Mark had said to me bothered me. I told him they hadn't and Dan said, "Well, they bothered me." This surprised me as I'd thought Dan was gay.
(And he was. He came out a couple of years later.)
My thought on the whole getting-hit-on-by-gay-men thing is that it isn't any different from a straight guy hitting on a woman.
You don't know until you try.
Posted by delmer at June 25, 2007 9:22 PM
Comments
Bill, at my last job, always wanted to do stuff, go out drink'in and other guy stuff. He was, as far as I could tell, dating this girl. He and I were friends and even did a road trip to a car show in Georgia together. Good CLEAN guy stuff. Then he got fired for stealing from the company. He wanted to make sure we would still be friends because I was there for him when his old room mate moved out. I do not recall "being there" for anyone but whatever.
It then came out later that he was gay.
I think he was hitting on me and I didn't know it. All the "you were there when my roomy moved out" had a whole different connotation to it. Granted by this time we did not talk anymore because he was a jerk.......and said I looked fat in my Wranglers.....
Posted by: Mikeo at June 26, 2007 4:34 PM
If Bill could only see you now that you've put all that time in on the trainer.
Posted by: delmer at June 29, 2007 8:50 AM